Love is a very powerful force that cannot be explained but as beautiful as it is if it is not properly managed it could be dangerous. Love is so beautiful especially when you are with the right person and you are loved in return.

Love not reciprocated can be very painful, when you give someone all of your heart but they are not returning your love that feeling can’t be perfectly described in words, it hurts and it has led some people to commit suicide because they could not handle the pains and there was no one around that they talk to.

If you are in a situation where your love is not reciprocated don’t be hard on yourself, it is not your fault there are a lot of people in similar situations and at the same time a lot of people have also moved on from that phase and you can also get over it.

Here are ways to deal with unreciprocated love:


I know it is very painful but the first step to moving forward is accepting your present situation. Do not pretend or assume he will come around when you know the person is not into you. Acceptance does not mean it is going to be easy but it is the beginning of your healing process.

Love not reciprocated should not be taken personally

I know it is easier said than done but don’t take it personally. Who you fall in love with is not a conscious decision you make a lot of times, the heart just decides who it wants to love. It doesn’t mean that you’re not good enough or unlovable but rather at this time it’s not meant to be. It may have nothing to do with you it’s possible the person is in love with someone else or they are not ready for a relationship.


Don’t be hard on yourself because your love wasn’t reciprocated

When your love is not reciprocated it may be painful but you don’t have to punish yourself. After you have gone through the acceptance stage, you need to start your healing process. Let it go and start something new, it can be tough you will feel you are powerless to change your situation. You need to forgive yourself and be a better person.

Create some distance

The best way to reject the rejecter is by giving the person some space. When you see him often it becomes hard to get over that situation. Giving him space will allow you to heal and focus on other things. Perhaps at some point, you can have a friendship with them but at this point, it is not possible. Be tough on yourself. Keep yourself busy; throw yourself into work, catch up with your old friends or pick up a new skill (a new language or a new skill).

Whatever you choose just keep yourself distracted and focus on something else.

Forgive your rejecter

I know this sounds a bit hard but forgiveness is not about the person who hurt you, it is about you. When you choose to forgive it sets you free and helps you find peace. Set your rejecter free because it helps you to move on.

It’s not going to be easy but you have to try and don’t be hard on yourself, you can’t forgive and forget. Each time you remember the hurt again choose to forgive.

Love will find you again

Open your heart to new opportunities. Meet new people and spend less time thinking about the one who hurt you. Love will find you but you need to be open.



Overcoming the hurt of a love not reciprocated might be a long process but you can move on. Follow these steps and find peace, work on yourself and be a better version of yourself. Put a value on yourself and remember that you deserve a love that will be reciprocated.

The truth is that your love not reciprocated , the acceptance of this and ability to move forward from it will make way for you to meet an amazing person who deserves your love and will love you back.

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  1. JasmineLangdon38 says:

    Beautiful post Michael. So true. I have been on the receiving end before as many of us have been. Wasn’t in love per say but cared a lot and couldn’t understand why they didn’t see or feel what I felt. Agree it’s not personal. I’d add that many of us who have been rejected 🙅‍♂️ may have inadvertently rejected others who didn’t let us know how they felt (the friend zone). I really like your advice !

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